Are Spiritual People Always Happy? 

  • By Moira McDougall
  • 24 Aug, 2015
Are Spiritual People always happy - The Master Key to a Happy and Fulfilling Life
Are Spiritual People Always Happy?

DAVID KARCHERE is a speaker and workshop leader who assists people to renew their Primal Spirituality—an experience that virtually all human beings know at birth, and that ideally grows as they mature.

I recently attended a Seminar co-presented by David - at Riverdell, in July! I receive the weekly emailing - The Pulse of Spirit , and in this most recent one (August 23, 2015) David shares his wonderful insights about living a full and joyful life - despite the current level of physical pain he was enduring!

With great respect, I share his words:

When I began to think about the topic of our first live online public course, a good friend suggested the theme of happiness. It is a subject of growing interest for people.

Dr. Jane Anetrini had introduced me to Dr. Dan Baker's book What Happy People Know. And I've noticed the growing focus on the positive side of psychology - moving away from a study of mental disease to a study of what well-being looks like.

In July, I visited Riverdel l, the Emissary Spiritual Center in South Australia. Dr. Andrew Horwood arranged for me to give a public talk in downtown Gawler on the topic 7 Simple Steps to a Happy, Fulfilling Life .
 Gawler is not a large town. But 60 people turned out in a packed room at the Prince Albert Hotel. They were fascinated and delighted.

Clearly, the topic was of intense interest. Just as important to me, I found that the subject of happiness gave me an opportunity to speak about the most pivotal areas of our human experience. It was an opportunity to explore the primal bond - our connection with all people, all of nature, and with the creative spirit within us.

Returning home to Sunrise Ranch, the team of people working on the course got very focused on the content. What would be important to people? How could we really make a difference in people's lives?

The first issue to address was the very nature of happiness. Surely, it must go beyond a momentary feeling of elation, even though that's delightful.

So the first of the three modules is on The True Nature of Joy . I had just written a chapter for Joyce Graham's upcoming book, Accessing Joy. I entitled it The Joy of Creation. The truth I wanted to explore was fresh in my mind.

Life contains such poetry and irony.

As I developed the material for the first module of the course, I was recovering from a back spasm, aggravated by my travel. At times, it really hurt!

There I was, writing about joy. And my lower back was killing me!

And then I GOT it.

How perfect! Joy isn't just about feeling good. Happiness isn't just a momentary sensation. I was in some pain. But I knew deep joy and fulfillment in my life. I am a happy man!

Don't get me wrong. I don't like pain any more than the next person does. Truth be told, I'm a wimp when it comes to things like dentistry and other kinds of physical pain. I avoid pain when I have a chance. And that includes emotional pain too.

But I am a happy man, with or without a back spasm. I have joy in my life even if I am having a bad day. My joy is from something way beyond that. How can I share the key to that understanding?

I had collided with a belief that is in the back of many people's minds: If I am on a spiritual path, good things will always happen to me, and they'll make me happy.

Really?

When I think about it, the most spiritual people I have known in my life have dealt with all kinds of illness, heartache and disappointment.

And then I think about the people who are spiritual heroes to me. People like Martin Luther King, John Lennon, the Dalai Lama and Jesus. They each faced huge challenges. And they radiated joy.

No, happiness isn't just a momentary sensation.

I've decided to name the course The Master Key to a Happy and Fulfilling Life . It will be a deep exploration of what happiness and fulfillment really is, and how to embrace it your own life.

Below is the link to the page where you can find out more about the course and register.

http://davidkarchere.com/ps-masterkey-register

I hope you can join me in our first live online course.

Next time I'll explore the question, "What is the Master Key to Happiness?"

Warm regards,
David.

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Self Manage Chronic Pain

By Moira McDougall 14 Feb, 2017

I recently visited an elderly woman in her home, in my community therapy role. So much had been happening in her world. During the weeks since my last visit she had experienced some serious health challenges, and her brother had died.

How could I be surprised that she had not managed to continue with the exercise and walking programme we had started?

She was tired, heartbroken and wracked with guilt, describing herself as “full of self-pity” because she was mourning the loss of her dear brother. This had also reminded her of the grief she experienced when her sister died a year previously.

I sat and listened with my Whole Heart.

 I was not there to offer solutions, to slap a band-aid over her aching heart, to make light of her feelings. I told her I believed it was good, right and proper to feel such acute loss and to express it. How else do we recover from our deep wounds?

She told me about her family, her ancestors who had migrated to New Zealand from an Eastern European country, just before the time of the Depression. She spoke of a grandfather who worked many menial jobs to provide for his family of seven children. Her parents also worked hard to raise her and her many siblings – a labour of love which she reflected on with great gratitude. She spoke of one of her sisters who had endured many trials and tribulations only to finally triumph – and she now lives overseas. She spoke with love of her own children – their successes and challenges.

In the telling, she called all of her Ancestors into that small lounge. I could feel them standing around her. I told her that I believed that talking about our Loved ones brings them close.

I can recognise the entrenched belief that being occupied fully, being accountable for every minute spent at the expense of any form of pure relaxation, has been ingrained in our psyches. No wonder, then, that this dear soul believed she was “full of self-pity” because her thoughts kept turning to those she loved dearly who were no longer here, in physical form. Because she could not do it for herself, I offered her the gift of my time, so that she could express what her heart was longing to share.

When it was time for me to leave, she hugged me tightly and thanked me for “just listening”. I feel I was the recipient of the greater gift. I heard her heart sing!

Do you feel taking time to grieve is selfish? Do you believe it is a form of self-pity?

I welcome your comments.

By Moira McDougall 12 Jan, 2017

You are going to win! With these words spurring me on, how could I not be a winner!

This morning I set out on my morning run, and it was hot already. Along the way, I passed and greeted a mum on her early morning walk, pushing her two small children in their stroller. The older child called out to me as I passed them, “you are going to win!”. How could I not honour that proclamation? How could I even consider feeling tired or discouraged with those beautiful words ringing in my ears?

This set me thinking about the many times I feel discouraged, as if I am wading through sludge. I have a strong work ethic, and set myself tasks and deadlines. This works for me when I have a good idea about a desired outcome, because it keeps me on track and I can measure my progress. But what happens when I am not sure about what I want to pursue or produce?

I am marooned in indecision, in not knowing, what my ‘next step’ is. Do you experience this too?

Business and personal coaching works wonders in helping one to define a pathway, helping to break down goals into manageable steps, in order to reach the defined outcome. This supposes that one already KNOWS or at least has an idea of the desired outcome.

One beautiful practice I was invited to participate in, invited us each to choose a Word to define a theme to focus on through the new year ahead, and to choose four Supporting Words to cushion or supplement the Word.

I have chosen SURRENDER.

Nothing works easily when I am pushing uphill, trying to do it all alone. I am not giving up, just practising being present in the moment, experimenting with ‘flowing’ rather than being rigid.

My supporting words are Grace, Gratitude, Courage and Insight – all qualities I will need to call on and include in my daily living.

Which brings me back to the proclamation “You are going to win!” We are all winners when we focus on what inspires us, what gives us meaning, and practice living in the present moment. And when we have others cheering us on!

“You are going to win!” – how does that make YOU feel?

By Moira McDougall 02 Jan, 2017

I have a heavy heart moving into this new year. Endings and more endings, because I am grieving the loss of two people dear to me.

My sister Anne has dementia and she is sliding further into the space between here and there. While she is still physically present, I miss her intellect, her sharp wit, her full presence. She is my older sister. I have known her my whole life. I never imagined that I would not be with her ‘fully’. She was the drawcard for my move to live in Christchurch.

She always looked after my younger brother and I; we looked up to her and trusted her guidance. As the eldest child, she copped the authority of our parents, and she fought hard for her independence. She is super intelligent, and my brother and I had a hard time following after her at school. She chose her own path, and with her husband travelled to places I have only ever dreamt of.

Now, I call on all my parenting and therapy skills as I navigate our relationship. She can’t remember what she ate two minutes ago, or whether she has eaten at all. She can’t dress herself. Her spatial awareness is impaired – steps are a challenge, and she doesn’t recognise familiar objects. Loud noises and busyness upset her, and her tolerance levels are reduced. Soon, she will need to be placed into full time care, which seems like a jail sentence. Excepting, there is no parole to look forwards to.

My heart is breaking. How did her Soul choose this challenge in this Lifetime?


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